Dear Katherine,

Katherine, I need your advice. I fell hard for someone who made me feel things I’ve never felt before. I don’t even know if he ever felt the same way, and we haven’t talked in months… but I can’t stop thinking about him. How do you move on when it still hurts this much—even when you don’t have closure?

—Leah

My dearest Leah,

You felt something powerful. You’re still feeling it. That’s real—no matter how clear or unclear the rest of it was.

Some experiences don’t give us answers. They leave questions, silence, and a knot in your chest you keep trying to untangle. That doesn’t mean they weren’t meaningful. It just means they weren’t finished properly. And sometimes? That’s all you get.

So here’s what you do:

You accept that you may never know the whole story. You stop waiting for a resolution that may never come. And you start focusing on what’s true: that you want connection. That you’re capable of feeling deeply. That you deserve more clarity than this.

It’s not about pretending it didn’t matter. It’s about deciding you matter more.

With all my wicked little heart,
Katherine